Listen to Yourself to Hear Other People
On Reflected and Referred Emotions
In tenth grade, my English teacher asked our class to try and define love. She mentioned that someone named Carl Rogers had effectively developed one definition, and his definition was “unconditional positive regard.” Though we were pretty much stumped, this was my first time hearing of the person who would go on to become one of my intellectual heroes.[1]
If you haven’t heard of him, Carl Rogers is widely considered to be one of the most influential psychologists who has ever…